Type Two: Dependable Helper

As a type Two, you seek to connect with others through love and service.

You see your role as the dependable one who helps anyone in need.

You’re known as generous and kind, and you easily offer your support and attention.

You love to be a part of a team, especially when working towards the betterment of others, and you long to feel needed and wanted by those around you. You sometimes find yourself repressing your own emotions or channeling them into a different form, so you can better tend to the needs of others. Since your greatest desire is to be fully loved and accepted, you can falsely believe that you have to earn others’ love through acts of service. You fear being unwanted or unloved, and this fear of rejection often fuels your decisions, even if it’s subconscious. You long to hear that you are enough just as you are, with or without your selfless acts.

Your ability to anticipate and identify the needs of others is one of your greatest strengths.

You possess a people-centered and sacrificing heart that makes you an excellent nurturer. You make others feel instantly welcome, and whether you’re the host or not, others feel at peace when they’re around you. You are the go-to for encouragement and comfort. As a strong worker, you put your everything into any task given to you by others.

Sometimes your best efforts are not received well though, as others can see you as overbearing or overly involved. You seek out and require the approval of others, and this can get you into a vicious cycle with those who don’t desire to receive your love, whether in that moment or in your delivery style. This can perpetuate unconscious manipulation in relationships because you work so hard to love others and tend to expect the same in return. You also can find yourself easily offended by criticism as it draws on your core fear of disapproval.

One of the best things you can do for yourself is to tend to your own needs.

Make a point to stop for a few moments each day and ask yourself what small act of self-care you need most. Whether that’s taking a walk by yourself to clear your head, or calling your best friend to talk, it’s important to keep yourself nourished so you can continue loving those around you from a place of fulfillment, not emptiness. In moments of self-reflection, it can be helpful to search for the true motivation of your acts of kindness.